Wow, January 2020!
What is really going on? Can I have a happy new year? We’re just getting started but a lot of unexpected things have occurred. OMG, I can say a lot about the beginning of this year! Besides today being my daughter’s 6th Birthday, I can’t really say it’s been a happy year thus far. We make so many New Year’s Resolutions and plans for our entire year, only to see that at the end of the year they aren’t fulfilled. Plus, the people who we expect to share our year with aren’t able to complete the year with us.
So far this year has been an emotional Roller Coaster ride, especially with deaths. One death, in particular, that has shocked the nation is Kobe Bryant’s. He is considered to be one of the world’s greatest Basketball Players. He played in the NBA on the Lakers team for about 20 years or so. After retirement, Kobe started coaching and continued to enjoy his life and his family. What’s even sadder is the fact that his 13-year-old daughter Gigi died with him.
My heart is pierced whenever I hear something about children. Gigi was the cutest little basketball player with a head full of hair and a smile so bright; she also followed in her father’s footsteps. When I heard the news, I asked how did Kobe Bryant Die? Then I found out from reports, they- along with several other families were in his private helicopter on the way to Gigi’s Mamba basketball game; when suddenly, the unimaginable happened. Due to bad weather conditions such as high fog, it caused them to crash on the hillside of Calabasas (which is still under investigation). In totality, nine people were recovered and pronounced deceased.
In addition, my uncle lost his wife and she was one of my favs. She honored her husband and loved her children and grandchildren. Her laugh would make you laugh and her smile would make you smile. She was one of the sweetest ladies around. Moreover, my husband lost his cousin in California as well as his uncle in Atlanta (a few days apart). He also lost his childhood friend to gun violence. My goal was to keep him happy and away from soo much grief. Plus, a few more people at my church lost LoVed ones and two of my co-workers died. I’m to the point where I don’t want to hear about any more deaths for a while, it’s heart wrenching and draining mentally.
I can’t even begin to imagine what all of these families are going through. My demeanor changes every time I get on Social Media and see so many people hurting. Needless to say, in January 2020 I’m continuously praying for everyone in their time of grief. Even after the funerals- when phones stop ringing and visitors stop coming around with dishes. Only God can help them through these difficult times. He stays close to the brokenhearted. He will strengthen them on this painful journey if they allow Him to.
We’ve all been affected by death one way or another. Even though we can some times relate, we can’t feel other’s pain because we all grieve differently. Click the 5 stages of grief for a little support to learn and hear testimonials. Sometimes hearing how others made it through can help you make it through. You’re not the only one going through, there is hope when it doesn’t seem like it.
Be Ready To Answer The Call
January 2020 slapped me over the head and reminded me that even though I want all of the great people in my life such as my family and friends to live forever, realistically it’s impossible because we live in a dying world that doesn’t prevent suffering. We are here on an assignment and can’t tell God how long we want to stay here to fulfill it. “We must work the works of Him who sent us while it is day; night is coming when no one can work (John 9:4). If Kobe knew he would die Sunday, January 26th, he wouldn’t have got on that Helicopter. Therefore, we do not know when we will take our last breath. Tomorrow is not promised.
Some people you know don’t make it out of the Womb, Surgery, Hospitals and some don’t make it home from a normal run to the grocery store; a regular day at Elementary, Middle, High school or College. Since we don’t know how long God will allow us to have our most precious LoVed ones, let’s appreciate the fact that He gave them to us for a reason and a season. In as much, slow down from your busy lives and take the time to LoVe on your LoVed ones. Find out what their LoVe Language is and fulfill it.
Time = LoVe
Time shows someone how much you LoVe them, especially when it inconveniences you. Sometimes I do things I don’t want to do because I LoVe the person I’m doing it for. I LoVe seeing people happy. We should never let so much time go by to where we only gather for funerals, weddings, and family reunions.
Here are a few tips to help stay close to your LoVed ones. Every now and then send them random texts to say I LoVe you, have lunch, be kind, hug, go somewhere fun, serve, treat and most importantly tell them how much they mean to you. As the saying goes, give them flowers while they are still here.
Be quick to forgive. If you have ought against someone, call them and ask them for forgiveness; or tell them you forgive them. “But If you don’t forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins (Matt 6:15).” As time passes, you may have forgotten why you stopped dealing with certain individuals anyway. It could’ve been something silly and you’ve grown beyond it. Just let it go.
James 4:13-15 states 13 Come now [and pay attention to this], you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, and spend a year there and carry on our business and make a profit.” 14 [a]Yet you do not know [the least thing] [b]about what may happen in your life tomorrow. [What is secure in your life?] You are merely a vapor [like a puff of smoke or a wisp of steam from a cooking pot] that is visible for a little while and then vanishes [into thin air]. 15 Instead [c]you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will live and we will do this or that.”… 17 So any person who knows what is right to do but does not do it, to him it is sin.
With all that being said, live your life to the fullest and do what you’re called to do because one day we must all stand before God. “So each of us will [have to] give an account of himself to God” (Rom 14:12). January 2020 won’t hold us down. I’m looking forward to greater things coming ahead- throughout this year. You may think to yourself, Can I have a Happy New Year?? Yes, you can! With God all things are possible. Despite how our year started, speak life to it and be intentional about having a blessed year.
If you’re grieving say Lord I thank you for the time you’ve given me with my LoVed one. My heart is broken and I know you stay near the brokenhearted. Without you, I can’t move forward. I believe you can and I know you will heal my broken heart. I need you to do it now. Strengthen me, make me stronger. Touch my mind, give me Joy and perfect peace. Show me how to move forward. Help me to live a purpose-filled life. Also, I pray for everyone else grieving. Strengthen them as well in Jesus name, Amen.